Who is my real father?

By Bro. R. Williams

inquiry@realisticimaginations.com

How many of us have had fathers in our homes growing up? How many have had the opportunity for that father figure to say "I love you" to. To have a father that will assure you in the paths that you take in life or the comfort in times of failure. To show you how you should do things or how you should treat someone else. Of all of these questions, the depths of many people cry out searching for the answer of "Who I really am?" People who are looking for the truth that stands the test of time without blanketed lies that inevitably fail. I personally am a victim of a single mother home, of not having a father figure in my life. My parents never got married and I was born out of wedlock. They never continued in relationship and I was left as a child of a single mother growing up. My earthly father never sought to build a relationship with me nor pass on to me the blessings God put in my earthly father to give to me. My promises as a child through my father would be security, wisdom, strength, identity, and love that would not fail. I would be groomed with an example of a man who loved Jesus and from him I would learn how to overcome lust, impatience, and this world itself. From my father I would learn how to remain faithful to his word and his family. To love everything that God has created and to be just in everything that he did. I didn get that inheritance passed on to me.

So as I grew up I went to church seldom but was not in a relationship with Jesus. That is the difference between the word in the mouth and the word in the heart. I believed it was alright to have as much sex that satisfied me. I did not believe so much into marriage and treated the opposite sex like they were mats. My word was like water, I didn watch after what I said, and I grew up with the mindset of a bastard child. I still believe that though God blessed me with a mom yet, I never felt complete without the element of my father. There was emptiness and somehow something picked at me that I was not designed to be that way. One who is abandoned to his own wisdom and intuition to grow up in a world filled with lies. I battled the temper of a flame thrower bottled inside a person who held things in till they erupted violently on everything around him. Wandering in life using people to get what I wanted to reach my goal, not caring about their livelihood and well-being. I grew up with the mindset of a bastard son.

Many people in this world now have come from or are living in matriarchal homes. Some have happened because of deaths in the families and some are from divorces as the reason of a single parent or no parent homes. Yet with all of them included, each generation has a chance to restore the inheritances that God designed to be bestowed upon us. Furthermore, we can recover what we lost unless it is revealed to us what we lost to recover. We were not as children designed to be abandoned to grow up all alone without any direction. God, the father of all creation, designed us to always be under "tutors and guardians to an appointed time." (Gal 4:2) So there has never been a point in our lives that we have ever been orphaned, abandoned, or alone he has always been there. His grace is sufficient enough to restore you into a proper alignment with him and restore you unto the generational blessing of the father unto the child.

The first step is to drive the bastard child out of you and regenerate the person that you truly are. What are some things the father tells us to help us understand as we grow up?

The first one is: Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. (Colossians 3:5)

That we may find the person that will become a life mate for us and join in marriage to that person.

The third one is: "What God has put together, let no man put asunder" (Mark 10:9)

The earthly nature seems like one of the hardest things to put off. Put your hand in front of you and noticed your skin is all over you. Most people believe that the skin (flesh) is the problem, or the devil is always the problem but, really the problem is what inside of the heart. (Galatians 5) There are tons of lustful situations that are around us at every hour every day. People were not designed to have sex with everything walking on this earth. It was designed for a person to meet one person and the blessings of sexual relationships were ordained for that marriage. Sex is a gift to a marriage. God designed your mind to only envision him and your spouse and not another. If the door to pornography or vain imagination is open the devil will start to use your thoughts to compare your spouse to another person you are not ordained to. If adultery masters you the end result is a lack of satisfaction with a gift God gave to you, your spouse. Sex is also the most intimate part of a relationship because no other person comes close to what God has authority over, to see your nakedness. If nakedness is covered by love and pre-marital sex exposes you to possible rejection, fear, guilt, and condemnation. Why do it? When you are married you are not battling rejection or fear of one night stands or I am not sure if this person is right. Well honestly, Sex is not the true indicator if that person is right for you. God sends someone that will no matter what love you for who you were made to be, it is for life and you are covered by love from an earthly vessel with the spirit of God in them. You are not burdened by a guilty conscience because you had sex before marriage; you have rest in marriage knowing that your love for another pleases him. To restore this inheritance we must stay undefiled by pornography and pre-marital sex so that we are able to give all to the person God has designed us to be with. It is their reward to receive.

Lust is not just about the opposite sex but anything that can take us away from being content in what God blesses us with. Anything in this life that you put before God is considered an idol. Some of us are so out of control with idols or what we believe will make our lives better we go all out till we addicted to it. God is better than star bucks, soul food, riches, and the painted perception of happiness. He is the reason behind a good spouse, a loving nature, and a fulfilling life.

The temple of God (Church) was not designed to be a fashion show nor was the temple (body) that God designed for you to house his holy spirit. It amazing these days that one-fourth of a persons check can go to the beautification of themselves rather than the giving to God. That is not just giving offering, but proper stewardship over the household he has given you. How can you put on a $130 pair of shoes or purse and your grass looks like a jungle? The paint job inside the house looks like the family hi-fived it for 3 years straight and the inside of your car is equivalent to a garbage bag: junky, disorganized, and full of trash. That is not proper stewardship. How have you allowed your mouth to talk about people, your eyes to wander around, and your thoughts to be filthy? That is not proper stewardship. This is sin. It is funny that the Catholic Church has passed over laws of the environment like it was never there in the bible. Furthermore, this is what God initially gave to Adam in the beginning of this world. Take care of what God has given to you. Children are not to be thrown off of bridges or sprayed with jet streamed hoses. Children are not supposed to be murdered or spouses killed. Jesus is the only person with power over and the keys of death. So who gives you the authority to take someone life away like you created it. We as parents shouldn even make a statement like that to our children. "I brought you in this world and I can take you out." That is a lie. God gave that child to you and God is in control in the timings of that child on this earth. Not you.

If God has given you grace to have the intimate relationship of a man, female, or family. It should not be taken lightly. You have to treat that person the way God designed you to treat them and that is with as much love as possible. You do not treat one of God children like vending machine food. Put in only what gets you what you desire then throw the wrappings away. We are all designed to be like a bank vault of love that is sowed in and reaped for someone else. God spirit through Jesus gives you the ability to edify all mankind through love. A relationship is an opportunity for you to show the love of Christ to the next person. Through your love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control that is the fruit of Jesus in you. God truly did give to the man one person to be with all of his life as he is married.

He will send to you a person that together you work together to become an image of Jesus as one person. Man and Woman joined together and becoming the co-heirs of the grace of life. (1 Peter 3:7) We should not fear marriage; it is the greatest thing in this world that God has ever given. If God does not give a spirit of Fear and protects you from all danger that is ahead of you who told you to fear something or someone he wants to bless you with. He is in control and all things from finances, communication, and sex he will have in control through you. He knows your needs and gives them to you you can return his fruit back to his people on this earth. One can put a thousand to flight, and two people of Christ love within them can put ten thousand to flight. Therefore, Paul says "I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them." (Romans 16:17)

So in conclusion, as we shed off layers of ourselves to reach the attainable goal that Jesus set. We inevitably become who Jesus was, a son and heir to all things of God. We do not fear, or spend 40 years of our lives running in a circle trying to figure out where God wants us. In our restoration and renewing of ourselves we must stay away from teachings that cause us not to mimic what Jesus said or did. Jesus said "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." (John 14: 6) The Father, God, is the goal that we are all reaching for that person who will be there with us always. To complete the emptiness that makes us believe we are orphaned and forsaken. He transforms a girl into a woman and a boy into a Man. He will show your parts of love that no other earthly vessel could imagine. The love from Jesus is the truest of all truth. Through the example of Jesus we can model ourselves to become as he walked to lead ourselves, our families, and our testimony to people in the way it was designed to be.